"Everything was off," 29-year-old Heather M. said to Self of her first time having sex with her husband. Also its a pity to use God as a reason for modern society. Most of the artificial social constructs that we today collectively refer to as civilization all originated thousands of years ago in ancient Mesopotamia, forced on humankind by the Anunnaki gods. And today, though they have changed and evolved for better or worse,they still serve to control and enslave people all around the world; for details see my post Statism: A System for your Enslavement. ↩, In the patriarchal Mesopotamian society the father was considered to be the lord of the house.65, 65 Cf. This article and the comments prove to me that youll all attack me. But our problem with sex isn't that we're having it before marriage; it's that we've cast it as shameful and dirty. For this The God creates drama of love otherwise love is only soul to soul to connection. The authors write that sexual intimacy in the early stages of dating is sometimes viewed as an important part of testing compatibility, and determining whether a relationship would work later on. Thanks for translating that Dutch information from the interview. I see no manipulation, but I just wanted to show you that there are mistakes in your hypothesis. If sex was easy to get, you would not be able to manipulate men into doing things in return for sex. It also means you should override the instinct to eliminate the offsprings belonging to another male . Its only meant for control over two dumb guys and reproduction. Speaking of something without completely having analyzed it, is like being an empty vessel but making the most noise. While that could be true in some instances, it seems many who've decided to remain celibate until marriage don't think that way at all. After you read the Bible from cover to cover I dare you to write this same article. [ Schurtz, Katechismus, p. A blog post on YourTango by Elizabeth Laura Nelson titled 5 Reasons Being A Single Mom Is WAY Better Than Being A Married Mom (March 2, 2016) confirms much of what I discussed above. . By the way I am a woman, who absolutely hates the idea of marriageMarriage obligates, love frees. Is this still a sin? This has also been legislated in recent times by the criminal State and in most Western societies the man literally has to work like a slave even after divorce through alimony. This often comes as a shock to their friends and acquaintances, since everything seemed to be going so well. In the current social system children can be raised and financed in the same way its done by the many thousands of parents who are either not married or divorced. Yes, it was worth it," another person admitted on Whisper. When they get a divorce they usually think they just had bad luck and would most likely give it another try with someone else. you cant love by contract you EITHER love someone OR you contract someone (love cant be contracted nor a contract can be loved). The disciples said to him, If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry. This demonstrates one way in which cohabiting relationships are practically very different. (Erin Roach, from Crosswalk.com article, Cohabiting Normative but Harmful). Too many laws now. The best way to live together when it comes to relationships between men and women, is described in my post Relationships of the Future.. Since a wife was considered her husbands possession, he could do what he saw fit with her. Keep on reading. Been there. Who does the voice of Vanessa on Phineas and Ferb? So here it goes: having sex before marriage is the best choice for nearly everyone. And scarcity leads to dependency, which leads to control, which in extreme cases can further lead to exploitation. One disadvantage of living together before marriage is that when youre not married, the reality is, you dont have some of the rights that a married person has, especially when dealing with certain laws. shes done her research, she knows history, she knows about mind control. There may no longer be a traditional father,mother, and son family, but it seems with a decreased global population and increased opportunities, children will still be alright. Just saying. You see, marriage was introduced to humankind thousands of years ago by the gods with the purpose of suppressing and repressingour sexuality. The fact that you felt the need to ask how to approach him with this soul-damning matter already proves that (currently) youve placed this phoney Christian bloke before The Lord! No one wants to spend thousands of dollars and deal with counseling and hearings just to get out of the relationship. You cant grow in a balanced way when you tie yourself to a single person for most of your life, simply because you limit the variety of experiences you can have. No one is worth hell,,, EVER! how is that going to foster love and trust and empathy in future generations? Gradually, sexual intercourse becomes a matter of habit or obligation. What can I do. In Gods plan, sexual union was never meant to be separated from this total union. Disillusionment plus the desire to escape plus non-fulfillment result in a secret hostility, which causes the other partner to feel alienated. In fact there are cultures that still exist today where theres no marriage, such as the Mosuo culture in the Chinese Himalaya. And today this is still the case. Is it because they are actually attempting to fool THEMSELVES in addition to society and so falsely verbalizing happiness that does not really exist makes the CLAIMER feel better, even when its stated anonymously? Because you and your partner have agreed to wait until the wedding to sleep together, you dont have to concern yourself with birth control (or the possible failure of it), pregnancy tests, sexually transmitted diseases and any tests for those, and a variety of other unwanted issues that pre-marital sexual activity brings. , you need to know the meaning of real commitment, and part of this is getting married. Interestingly enough, the word svami is even today commonly used for the English word husband: the owner of a wife. Yes but why must the woman be ruled over by man? Lots of little ones running around that dont know who their parents are. Right on the money. So when Throughout Mesopotamian history, women experienced different liberties and their role changed with each successive civilization. That is responsibility and it doesnt come from signing a peace of pape. If you need to flag this entry as abusive. The agency says Monday that more than 350,000 divorces occurred in 2011. Inthose new societieseverything will be based on sharing and peer to peermodels and that includes our love- and sexual relationships. None of that applies in a poly setup, which is incredibly liberating. People are encouraged to stick to a single partner, and to even claim their partners as their exclusive property. This secret hostility then leads to a secret hate, and this hate continues to develop until it starts to express itself more and more in the relationship. This meant she wasn't necessarily planning to wait all the way until her wedding day. And when our collective cultural consciousness says that sex is shameful and dirty, we don't have the incentive or the tools to plan for sex, to see it as a positive responsibility and to make healthy sexual choices. Have you read the Bible from cover to cover before you came to that conclusion? They may even be having regular arguments, may be sleeping in separate beds, may be cheating on their partners, etc. And i make this very clear in my article. If partners are happy, no problem, everyone signs off and the marriage persists. Culture would then appear as a mere farce, the morbid consequence of repressed sexuality. Why not grant the right to forgive instead ? Women (75%) dont care about sex but our rape/smut culture has fooled us into being supertramps. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Some couples who know this first hand, may it be with their family members or even, Should You Get A Divorce? For example, about men and women submitting to one another? These findings agree with my own observations throughout the years, that show that relationships between couples usually last between 3 to 4 years on average. My longest relationship has only been 7 years though, quite a far cry from 70. a child needs the love and security of both of it parents, and if possible , other loving adults in their family. If you are created specifically as a helper, then that is your purpose in life. Once a couple cohabitates, a momentum In a recent post I discuss a book by Esther Vilar titled The Manipulated Man. I recommend checking that post out, as it contains additional information regarding the true purpose of artificial social constructs in society, such as marriage. Nineteen percent lasted one year; 37 percent, three to four years; 26 percent, four to nine years; 12 percent, ten to nineteen years; 6 percent, more than 19 years. It says: Men must make their women dependent day and night, and keep under their control those who are attached to sensory objects. Living Together: Why Something Sensible is So Damaging, First 12 Years of Marriage Dave & Ashley Willis. Arguments about money and rows over other family members were the most likely factors to drive a wedge between couples. This has become an appealing decision for most people nowadays. It turns out that feminist values not "traditional" ones lead to the most stable marriages. #5 heres the full out judgement call.Your lack of maturity and obedience to your elders/betters and your promises results in love not being manefested. This secret hate often leads one or the other or both to seek love objects outside the marriage or relationship. They will no longer work hard. Here is why. And thats for good reason, because variety is key to living an enjoyable and interesting life. With regard to the Roman Catholic faith, its also good to know where that came from. Dec. 28, 2010 -- It may be common for couples to have sex before marriage, but a new study shows that couples who wait until marriage are happier with the quality of sex than couples who have intercourse before their vows. I have read the article you are forwarding me to though this does not change the fact that a person speaking of something without completely having analyzed it, is like being an empty vessel but making the most noise. But seeing it as a sociological and psychological issue as well, reveals that cohabiting relationships tend to be shorter-lived and more volatile than marriages. The word family also doesnt mean what most people think that it means. Keep on reading. What happens in traditional relationships can be predicted and I have it down to science now. Things. As weve seen above, in the very beginningmarriage was all about the enslavement of women. Natural desires are there for a reason. The study says 21% of respondents were Catholic, 39% Protestant, 6% Latter-Day Saints (Mormon), 17% members of another religion, and 17% who indicated no religious affiliation. Some man may becomes very aggressive too, if he finds out his woman has child with another man. "I wish I hadn't put so much pressure on myself to be a virgin. Im 26 years old and Im afraid he is just using my time for himself. If you havent read the Bible from cover to cover but you know what his intentions are then unfortunately I think you will not see the light. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. When that eventually happens they get confused and dont understand what went wrong; after all, they were living according to the rules approved and prescribed to them by society. In most families today a child cant develop themselves in a natural and self-regulated way. They are also more likely to be involved in sexual affairs. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. Does the three to four year principle hold true for those situations as well? Check my post The Manipulated Man for more on this. Its hard to argue with the fact that when a person becomes bored of another persons body, its very difficult to get excited, to desire them and to lust after them. If you love each other at 21, and are convinced that you will still want to spend eternity together at 26, then why not just wait until 26 so you know for sure? This is certainly in line with everything Ive discussed above. Theres no problem in living together before marriage. Cohabitation involves more than sharing just the accommodation. Children want to touch and taste everything in their environment. How to Divide Household Chores Fairly in Marriage, This way, if things dont work out, just leave, and thats it. Couples who move in together are less likely to decide to get married. Such an arrangement would make sense in a completely new social system such as the Venus Project. Being fancy and famous does not exempt you from the shit-stained gauntlet of love. How about approaching some of those rare cases and asking them why they have managed to keep it together so long. Or you can just speak out against it because its too hard. Unfortunately giving you specific verses would be opposing what God has given me as a cautious what not to do (matthew 7:6). So, this 2017 I stopped having sexual relationship with any man. Also, suppressing sex has historically had excellent precedent, due, once again, to the lack of good means of birth control and decent healthcare. However, living together as a couple means an arrangement the couple makes to live together. Buy why are there many people who stay together for life and claim to be happy? majority of marriages dont get divorced and most divorces are caused by distrust or cheating. Similarly, 39-year-old Rebecca K. said first-time sex with her hubby was "pretty underwhelming." YOU LOVE ONLY YOURSELF. Regardless of whether you live under the same roof, sex outside of the covenant of marriage is not Gods plan for sexuality. Its obvious women are equal now too. If this argument becomes popular in United States, and people do stop getting married and having lesser kids, then enemies of United States such as Russia and China (especially China) could use their population numbers as a weapon against United States. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. Not the love you imagine at 16 or 18 or 21 or 23. 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